You Don’t Need To Fit In To Win

As Good Charlotte put it, “This song is dedicated to every kid who ever got picked last in gym class…To every kid who never had a date to no school dance…”

or to put it quite frankly:

This guide is for the outsiders, the intuitives, the ones who’ve been called “too much” or “not enough.” It’s time to stop shrinking and start claiming your power—no crystals required (unless you’re into that sh*t).

What Manifesting Actually Is (Spoiler: It’s Not Just Instagram Affirmations)

Manifestation isn’t just “law of attraction”/new-age fluff. It’s ancient magic wrapped in psychology. Rooted in the New Thought Movement of the 19th century (and older practices like Hermeticism), it’s the art of aligning your energy, focus, and action to create tangible results. But here’s the kicker:

• Manifesting what you want = Your subconscious mind + deliberate action + spiritual alignment .
• For misfits, it’s a rebellion. A way to say, “I refuse to accept the scraps of a system that never saw me.”

Your Edge as a Misfit: Your “difference” isn’t a liability—it’s your superpower. You’re used to thinking outside boxes. Now use that skill to build a life that thrives outside them.

Step 1: Get Uncomfortably Specific

If a waiter approached you and asked you what you wanted to eat, would you reply “food?”

I hope not. Here’s the thing: nobody likes vague requests. You want “freedom”? “Love”? “More money”? Okay. And what exactly does that look like for you?

You need to be able to envision your goal. Get as specific as possible. What does it look like? Feel like? If it was a tree what kind of damn tree would it be? Know the ins and outs of your goal. Treat it as a character study if you have to.

Example: Instead of “I want to feel seen,” try “I want to earn $50K/year doing art that resonates with outsiders like me.”

Another thing worth mentioning here is the driving force behind your desire. If you’re asking for a raise, when really a completely new job is more in alignment with your ideals, then why are you manifesting a raise? Not only are you not actually manifesting what you want, you’re most likely not going to get it.

• Misfit Hack: If you’re stuck or need guidance, use tarot as a tool for clarity. Pull a card and ask, “What do I truly want from life?” Even if you don’t get the answer you’re looking for, you’ll automatically find out what you don’t want which narrows down what you do want.

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Your Mindset Is Sabotaging You (But You Can Fix It)

Misfits often carry invisible weights: imposter syndrome, past failures, or the voice of someone who told you, “You’re not enough.” These are called limiting beliefs and they’re most likely the number one thing holding you back.

Whenever you hear that slimy inner critic, listen to it. Don’t run from it. Implore why you’re hearing that voice. Where’d it come from? Is it programming from someone in your life who puts you in a box you either don’t belong it or have outgrown? Or is it just past trauma that you’re ready to break free from?

Own it. Give it space to be heard- but not lived.

• Rebel Exercise: Journal your limiting beliefs, then rewrite them. Example:
  • Old Script: “I’ll never succeed because I’m too weird.”
  • New Script: “My uniqueness is my leverage. I’m not here to blend in—I’m here to disrupt.”
• Spiritual Nod: Burn sage, light a candle, or shuffle your tarot deck while you do this. Let ritual ground the process.

Reality Check: Manifesting what you want isn’t about “thinking positive.” It’s about thinking strategically . You don’t have to fake confidence; you just have to act as if you have it until you do.

Doubt Is Normal—But So Is Overcoming It

Misfits are trained to expect the worst. Society told you, “You’ll never make it.” Your job is to prove them wrong without burning out.

Anti-Toxic Positivity Strategy

• Acknowledge doubt (“Yeah, I’m scared. So what?”).
• Ask your tarot deck, “What’s the best step forward?” (Even skeptics admit it forces decisive action.)
• Celebrate micro-wins (e.g., “I sent that email despite my anxiety. Take that, inner critic!”).

Science Meets Spirit: Dopamine (the reward chemical) spikes when you complete tasks. Each tiny win trains your brain to crave progress.

Step 2: Pick Your Poison Manifestation Methods (Or Choose Them All)

Whether you use journaling, vision boards, or sigil work, these practices are about creating a container for your focus, energy, and intention. Here’s how to do it without losing your edge:

1. Journaling: The Misfit’s Weapon for Clarity

How to Do It:

• Step 1: Grab a notebook and a pen. Burn sage, light a candle, or blast your “I’m dangerous when I’m focused” playlist.
• Step 2: Ask yourself: “What do I want, and why do I deserve it?” Write the answer like you’re arguing with the universe—and winning.
• Step 3: List every obstacle (e.g., “I’m scared to fail,” “I don’t know where to start”). Then reframe each as a step:
  • “I’m scared to fail” → “I’ll research my first actionable step today.”
  • “I don’t know where to start” → “I’ll schedule a tarot reading to cut through the noise.”
• Step 4: Once you’ve accomplished that, write out your new manifestation proclamation. Just make sure it’s:
  • In present tense (acting as if): I will be eating Cinnabon every day. I eat Cinnabon every day.
  • Fairly short, nothing too extravagant: (I am eating Cinnabon every day and shopping at Macy’s while also flirting with cute boys. Oh, and I’m in the Maldives.”
• Step 5: Repeat phrase daily.

Why It Works: Writing forces you to confront your BS. It turns abstract fears into tangible problems you can solve.

Misfit Hack: Use tarot to guide your journaling. Pull a card and ask, “What does this teach me about my goal?” The Hermit might say, “You need solitude to strategize,” while the Devil could scream, “Let go of perfectionism.”

2. Vision Boards: For When You’re Tired of Playing Small

How to Do It:

• Step 1: Gather magazines, scissors, and a poster board—or use Canva if you’re digital.
• Step 2: Cut out images/words that trigger emotion , not just aesthetics. If you’re manifesting creative freedom, include photos of messy studios, bold art, or a laptop on a beach (not a stock photo of a smiling corporate drone).
• Step 3: Add one absurdly audacious goal. Example: “$100K/year doing witchy art for girls like me.” Tape it somewhere you’ll see daily (even the bathroom mirror).

Why It Works: Vision boards aren’t magic—they’re visual reminders to stop settling. They rewire your brain to notice opportunities.

Misfit Hack: Pair with a “shadow board.” Create a second board with everything you don’t want (e.g., burnout, conformity). Place it face-down under your bed. Symbolic? Yes. Therapeutic? Absolutely.

3. Sigil Work: For the Witches Who Want Results

How to Do It:

• Step 1: Write your desire as a statement (e.g., “I am financially free”).
• Step 2: Remove repeating letters: “I A M F N A C I A L Y F R E E.”
• Step 3: Turn the letters into a symbol (or use a generator). This is your sigil.
• Step 4: Charge it: Stare at the sigil, focus on your desire, then burn, bury it, or hide it. Let go of attachment.

Why It Works: Sigils force you to distill your goal into pure intent. The act of destroying the sigil symbolizes releasing your desire into the universe—on your terms.

Misfit Hack: Draw the sigil on your tarot deck’s box. Every time you pull a card, you’re reinforcing the energy.

4. Affirmations That Don’t Suck

How to Do It:

• Step 1: Ditch generic mantras like “I am love.” Write affirmations that sound like you :
  • “I’m not here to blend in—I’m here to build empires.”
  • “My weirdness is my weapon.”
• Step 2: Say them in the mirror while half-drunk on a Moscow Mule, or whisper them in the shower in the mornings. Make it feel alive, not performative.

Why It Works: Affirmations reprogram your inner critic. Done right, they’re a middle finger to every voice that said you’re “too much.”

Misfit Hack: Pair with tarot. Pull a card each morning and create an affirmation from it. Got the Tower? “I embrace chaos—it clears space for better things.”

5. Rituals for the “Too Cynical for This Sh*t” Crowd

How to Do It:

• Step 1: Pick one actionable ritual per week. Example:
  • Monday: Tarot + journaling to set intentions.
  • Friday: Burn a list of self-doubt while drinking whiskey.
• Step 2: Track progress in a “F*ck Yeah” log. Write down every tiny win, no matter how small.

Why It Works: Rituals create momentum. Even skeptics can’t argue with data: “I did X, and Y happened.”

Misfit Hack: Turn your workspace into a ritual zone. Keep your tarot deck, sigil sketchbook, and a list of goals on your desk. Make ambition visible .

Also check out my Tarot For Manifestation Ultimate Guide

Step 3: Action Proves That You’re Serious

Want to monetize your passion? Manifestation isn’t chanting and waiting until something spooky happens. You have to pair it with action.

You see, action isn’t just the science behind manifestation, it also shows the Universe that you’re serious about what you want. So instead of waiting for your dream clients to bust down your door, it’s about creating 10 pieces of content, pitching 20 clients, and using your intuition (via tarot or journaling) to decide which opportunities to chase.

Tarot Tie-In: Use a three-card spread (Past, Present, Future) to map your next move. The cards won’t do the work for you—but they’ll cut through the noise.

Step 4: Living with Intention

You don’t become a CEO by thinking like an intern. You don’t manifest abundance by hoarding coupons like a scarcity hoarder. Start:

• Thinking bigger: Upgrade your self-talk. Replace “I can’t” with “How can I?”
• Acting bolder: Apply for the job you’re “underqualified” for. Pitch your rate, not a discount.
• Investing in yourself: Buy the course. Hire the mentor. Spend on tools that amplify your power (not just survival).
• Implement systems: To manifest change, you have to implement change. Do new things. Practice new beliefs.

Tarot Tie-In: Pull a card daily and embody its energy. The Queen of Pentacles? Show up as the boss who values abundance. The Tower? Let go of a toxic crutch.

Gratitude for Misfits: Not Just for Hippies

You don’t have to pretend everything’s perfect to practice gratitude. Sometimes, true gratitude starts with:

• Anger.
• Grief.
• The raw truth that life has sucked sometimes.

Then, you build from there.

But don’t operate from a place of lack. Gratitude and scarcity cannot exist at the same time. When you focus on what you’re lacking you’re not only negating the entire manifestation process, you’re choosing to focus on the negative.

• Exercise: List 3 things you’re grateful for that align with your goal . Example: If you’re goal is creative freedom, write, “I’m grateful I carved out 30 minutes today to write/draw/create.”
• Woo-Woo Twist: Pair this with a candle-dressing ritual (anoint a candle with oil while stating your intention) to anchor the energy.

Burn These Manifesting Myths to the Ground

Myth 1: “If you just believe hard enough, the universe will hand it to you.”
Truth: The universe rewards alignment + action . Want proof? Try manifesting a $1500 dollars overnight while not properly doing the above steps (they worked for me!)

Myth 2: “You have to be ‘spiritual’ to manifest.”
Truth: Your trauma, cynicism, and messy emotions aren’t barriers—they’re fuel. Misfits thrive when they alchemize pain into purpose.

Myth 3: “Manifesting is selfish.”
Truth: Claiming your power is an act of defiance against systems that profit from your obedience.

The Misfit’s Manifesting Checklist

✅ Defined your goal with ruthless specificity.
✅ Used tarot or intuition to clarify your path.
✅ Took at least one action step this week (no matter how small).
✅ Celebrated progress, not perfection.
✅ Burned at least one list of self-doubt (literally or metaphorically).

Conclusion: You’re Not a Misfit—You’re the F*cking Chosen One

Manifesting what you want isn’t about fitting in; it’s about standing out so fiercely that the world has no choice but to notice. You’ve spent years surviving. Now it’s time to thrive. So grab your tarot deck, your journal, and your unapologetic self—and start building the life that’s been waiting for you.

Final Challenge: What’s one thing you’ve been too scared to manifest? Write it down. Burn the paper. Do one thing today to make it real.

The Misfit Formula:

• Get specific: (and just say no to your inner critic)
• Pick your poison(s) (yes, even the holy-crap-is-this-possible terror).
• Take one small, strategic action (email that client, sign up for the class, post your work online).
• Repeat until momentum becomes magic.

FAQs for Misfit Manifesters

Q: Can I manifest even if I’m broke/depressed/unmotivated?
A: Yes. Start smaller. Manifest the courage to Google “jobs near me” or the energy to text a friend. Progress compounds.

Q: How do I know if my manifestation is “aligned”?
A: If it feels expansive (not obsessive), it’s aligned. Misfits often conflate anxiety with intuition—use tarot to check.

Q: Should I tell people my goals?
A: Only if they’re fellow misfits who’ll without a doubt root for you. Otherwise, keep it sacred.

Q: Can I manifest revenge?
A: No. That’s not manifestation—it’s stagnation. Focus on building a life so good, you forget to hate them.

You’re not broken. You’re not too much. You’re exactly what the world needs—raw, weird, and powerful. Ready to claim your magic? Share this post with your fellow misfits, and let’s build a rebellion. P.S. Need a personalized tarot reading to kickstart your plan? [Click here.]